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“I was in Nashville, Tennessee last year.  After the show I went to a Waffle House.  I’m not proud of it, I was hungry.  And I’m alone, I’m eating and I’m reading a book, right?  Waitress walks over to me: ‘Hey, whatcha readin’ for?’  Isn’t that the weirdest f**kin’ question you’ve ever heard?  Not what am I reading, but what am I reading FOR?  Well, goddamnit, ya stumped me!  Why do I read?  Well… hmmm… I dunno… I guess I read for a lot of reasons and the main one is so I don’t end up being a fuckin’ waffle waitress.”  ―  Bill Hicks

 

TRT in the UK  is an independent closed Facebook group that serves as a platform to help educate and support men with low testosterone.  It is a close-knit community, where people feel comfortable sharing information to the group with the aim of helping others on their journey.  Physical and psychological health are both fluid, they need constant work.  It’s easy to become lost as there is a minefield of information out there which may or may not be pertinent or relevant.  It’s sometimes hard to know in which direction one should turn.  I simply posed a question to the group – “What books have you found, or are finding helpful, in your journey to mental well-being?”.  These were the responses…

 

12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos – Jordan P. Peterson

In this book, he provides twelve profound and practical principles for how to live a meaningful life, from setting your house in order before criticising others to comparing yourself to who you were yesterday, not someone else today. Happiness is a pointless goal, he shows us. Instead we must search for meaning, not for its own sake, but as a defence against the suffering that is intrinsic to our existence.

Drawing on vivid examples from the author’s clinical practice and personal life, cutting edge psychology and philosophy, and lessons from humanity’s oldest myths and stories, 12 Rules for Life offers a deeply rewarding antidote to the chaos in our lives: eternal truths applied to our modern problems.

 

Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Finding Peace in a Frantic World – Mark Williams

MINDFULNESS reveals a set of simple yet powerful practices that can be incorporated into daily life to help break the cycle of unhappiness, stress, anxiety and mental exhaustion and promote genuine joie de vivre. It’s the kind of happiness that gets into your bones. It seeps into everything you do and helps you meet the worst that life can throw at you with new courage. The book is based on Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT). MBCT revolves around a straightforward form of mindfulness meditation which takes just a few minutes a day for the full benefits to be revealed. MBCT has been clinically proven to be at least as effective as drugs for depression and it is recommended by the UK’s National Institute of Clinical Excellence – in other words, it works. More importantly it also works for people who are not depressed but who are struggling to keep up with the constant demands of the modern world. MINDFULNESS focuses on promoting joy and peace rather than banishing unhappiness. It’s precisely focused to help ordinary people boost their happiness and confidence levels whilst also reducing anxiety, stress and irritability.

 

The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness – Prof Steve Peters

Do you sabotage your own happiness and success? Are you struggling to make sense of yourself? Do your emotions sometimes dictate your life?

The Chimp Paradox is an incredibly powerful mind management model that can help you become a happy, confident, healthier and more successful person. Prof Steve Peters explains the struggle that takes place within your mind and then shows how to apply this understanding to every area of your life so you can:

  • Recognise how your mind is working
  • Understand and manage your emotions and thoughts
  • Manage yourself and become the person you would like to be

The Chimp Mind Management Model is based on scientific facts and principles, which have been simplified into a workable model for easy use. It will help you to develop yourself and give you the skills, for example, to remove anxiety, have confidence and choose your emotions. The book will do this by giving you an understanding of the way in which your mind works and how you can manage it. It will also help you to identify what is holding you back or preventing you from having a happier and more successful life.

Each chapter explains different aspects of how you function and highlights key facts for you to understand. There are also exercises for you to work with. By undertaking these exercises, you will see immediate improvements in your daily living, and, over time, you will develop emotional skills and practical habits that will help you to become the person that you want to be, and live the life that you want to live.

 

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment – Eckhart Tolle

Eckhart Tolle demonstrates how to live a healthier and happier life by living in the present moment.
To make the journey into The Power of Now we will need to leave our analytical mind and its false created self, the ego, behind. Although the journey is challenging, Eckhart Tolle offers simple language and a question and answer format to show us how to silence our thoughts and create a liberated life.

Surrender to the present moment, where problems do not exist. It is here we find our joy, are able to embrace our true selves and discover that we are already complete and perfect. If we are able to be fully present and take each step in the Now we will be opening ourselves to the transforming experience of The Power of Now.

It is in your hands. Discover the Power of Now.

 

Life Leverage: How to Get More Done in Less Time, Outsource Everything & Create Your Ideal Mobile Lifestyle – Rob Moore

You are just one small step away from the life you know you deserve. It’s time to leverage your life.
Life Leverage means taking control of your life, easily balancing your work and free time, making the most money with the minimum time input & wastage, and living a happier and more successful life.

Using Rob Moore’s remarkable Life Leverage model, you’ll quickly banish & outsource all your confusion, frustration and stress & live your ideal, globally mobile life, doing more of what you love on your own terms.

Learn how to:

  • Live a life of clarity & purpose, merging your passion & profession
  • Make money & make a difference, banishing work unhappiness
  • Use the fast-start wealth strategies of the new tech-rich
  • Maximise the time you have; don’t waste a moment by outsourcing everything
  • Leverage all the things in your life that don’t make you feel alive

‘This book shows you how to get more done, faster and easier than you ever thought possible. A great book that will change your life’. Brian Tracy, bestselling author of Eat That Frog.

 

Who Moved My Cheese: An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life – Dr Spencer Johnson

It is the amusing and enlightening story of four characters who live in a maze and look for cheese to nourish them and make them happy. Cheese is a metaphor for what you want to have in life, for example a good job, a loving relationship, money or possessions, health or spiritual peace of mind. The maze is where you look for what you want, perhaps the organisation you work in, or the family or community you live in. The problem is that the cheese keeps moving.

In the story, the characters are faced with unexpected change in their search for the cheese. One of them eventually deals with change successfully and writes what he has learned on the maze walls for you to discover. You’ll learn how to anticipate, adapt to and enjoy change and be ready to change quickly whenever you need to.

Discover the secret of the writing on the wall for yourself and enjoy less stress and more success in your work and life. Written for all ages, this story takes less than an hour to read, but its unique insights will last a lifetime.

Spencer Johnson, MD, is one of the world’s leading authors of inspirational writing. He has written many New York Times bestsellers, including the worldwide phenomenon Who Moved My Cheese? and, with Kenneth Blanchard, The One Minute Manager. His works have become cultural touchstones and are available in 40 languages.

 

The Art of War – Sun Tzu

Sun Tzu’s The Art of War has been a vastly influential treatise on military strategy in the east from the time of China’s Warring States Period (403-221 BC) onward. Though its first translation into a European language was only in 1782, the book’s significance was quickly recognized and even such towering figures of Western history as Napoleon and General Douglas MacArthur have claimed it a source of inspiration. Pax Librorum (www.PaxLibrorum.com) now brings readers this highly accessible unannotated edition of Lionel Giles’ definitive translation of Sun Tzu’s enduring masterpiece.

 

The Road Less Travelled And Beyond: Spiritual Growth in an Age of Anxiety: Spiritual Growth in an Age of Uncertainty – M. Scott Peck

The culmination of a lifetime of counselling, lecturing and writing, M. Scott Peck’s major work leads us to a deeper awareness of how to live rich, fulfilling lives in a world fraught with stress, worry and anxiety. Writing with a depth of understanding that comes with the seasoned perspective of age, Dr Peck continues the journey of spiritual growth that began with The Road Less Travelled, one of the most influential personal development books of modern times. To the famous opening line of that book – ‘Life is difficult’ he now adds ‘Life is complex’. But the greatest challenge, he reminds us, is to learn to deal with life’s conflicts, problems and paradoxes to find the true simplicity that lies on the other side of complexity. The journey to serenity and inner peace, Dr Peck writes, can only be made with increasing self-awareness and social awareness. There are no easy answers for complex problems. The work of learning and spiritual growth is hard. And yet he shows us that there is a way to think with integrity, to know the difference between good and evil, to overcome narcissism, to love and be loved, to live with paradox, to accept the consequences of our actions all through life, and to come to terms with dying and death.

 

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life – Mark Manson

In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be “positive” all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.

For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.

Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—”not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

There are only so many things we can give a f**k about, so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humour, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

 

Self-Help for Your Nerves: Learn to Relax and Enjoy Life Again by Overcoming Stress and Fear – Dr. Claire Weekes

Essential guide for everything you need to know to keep relaxed through every day life
Repackage of the phenomenally successful guide to dealing with nervous illness – Self Help for Your Nerves. This guide offers the most comprehensive insight and advice into coping with nervous stress.
Sufferers of nervous illness regard Self Help for Your Nerves as their bible – many believe that if they had found it earlier they would have been saved years of unnecessary suffering.

Dr Claire Weekes looks at:

  • How the Nervous System Works
  • What is Nervous Illness
  • Common factors in the development of nervous illness
  • Recurring Nervous Attacks

Plus important chapters on depression, sorrow, guilt and disgrace, obsessions, sleeplessness, confidence, loneliness and agoraphobia.

The book also shows the Dr Claire Weekes method, a practical programme on learning to take your place among people without fear.

 

No More Mr Nice Guy – Robert A. Glover

This controversial e-book phenomenon became a best-seller and landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O’Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has devoted his career as a psychotherapist to freeing men from what he was dubbed the “Nice Guy Syndrome”-trying too hard to please others while neglecting their own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It’s no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.

 

Why We Sleep: The New Science of Sleep and Dreams – Matthew Walker

Sleep is one of the most important aspects of our life, health and longevity and yet it is increasingly neglected in twenty-first-century society, with devastating consequences: every major disease in the developed world – Alzheimer’s, cancer, obesity, diabetes – has very strong causal links to deficient sleep.

In this book, the first of its kind written by a scientific expert, Professor Matthew Walker explores twenty years of cutting-edge research to solve the mystery of why sleep matters. Looking at creatures from across the animal kingdom as well as major human studies, Why We Sleep delves into everything from what really happens during REM sleep to how caffeine and alcohol affect sleep and why our sleep patterns change across a lifetime, transforming our appreciation of the extraordinary phenomenon that safeguards our existence.